In the previous post, I described why you should continue hoping. In this post, I want to talk about how to not lose hope. One of the most difficult things to do, especially in difficult times, is understanding how to regain hope in your situation. You may have the knowledge that you should continue hoping but are at a loss on how to keep hoping. There are various methods to being able to regain hope. These suggestions are aimed for people who are having a difficult time believing in hope and are in a moment where hope seems like the last thing possible.
Be patient with the situation. Life is a journey and part of that journey is accepting the reality of failures and successes. Some blessings may happen instantly, while others could take months or even years. Be patient and realistic about your situation. Things typically do not happen overnight. It can take people years to find the love of their life. With the economy, it can be a long process until you find a job. Achieving your dreams will take time. Be patient and remember that these things usually do not happen overnight.
Be patient and understanding to yourself. Life is tough and when faced with difficult times, nobody is expecting you to be perfect. Allow yourself time to mourn, cry, and feel helpless. Remember that you cannot expect yourself to always be strong during very tough situations. Don’t be afraid to ask for help. Get proper amounts of sleep. Try to spend time with your friends, family or significant other. Hope is attainable once you set aside time to take care of yourself.
Make a list of things you are thankful for. Creating a list of things in your life that you are grateful for will help you identify some of the good things currently happening in your life. Furthermore, this task will help you appreciate the wonderful blessings that you do have. During difficult times it’s easy to forget some of the good things in your life. Work on making a list of things that you are happy about.
Create hope in others. Go out and get involved in the world around you. Try and make a difference in the lives of others! You can go out and help out at a homeless shelter, do some volunteer activity at your church or some other volunteer pursuit you can think of. Creating hope in others will help you create hope in yourself. You will also see the value you can give to others. Seeing the way people’s lives can be changed positively will help you realize that although you are going through a difficult time, things will be okay.
Plan goals for each day. Helping to set small, attainable goals for yourself will help you start building up hope. You will realize that you are making an effort to better your situation and will gradually start to see results from that, and will know that you are not stuck in a standstill. Remember, plan small daily goals. If you are worried you will get kicked out of school for poor grades, then start committing to study for 2 hours every day or to receive tutoring at least 3 times a week. Start small and build up from there.
Be realistic. Hope does not involve simply just dreaming and wishing for something that may be unrealistic. Have realistic dreams and aim for that. If our dreams are not realistic then you may end up losing faith in the power of hope. It may be unrealistic to aim to attend a very prestigious school and it’s your senior year, you have a 3.0 GGP and scores on your standardized exams need improvement. A more realistic dream may be to get into a good school with a good program. It may not be realistic to aim for a job that is exactly what you want to do, has great pay, and an awesome employer. You may have to make the decision about whether you are willing to do what you want for less pay, or have a job that pays very well but is something you are not passionate about. It’s great to dream but have realistic dreams. Something too out of the scope of reality may set you up for disappointment.
Be thankful and kind. Show kindness and thankfulness to others whenever you get the chance. There will be people that do support you and blessings will come your way. Make sure to pay attention to those blessings and be thankful to the people who have been supportive and helpful towards you. Being positive towards others will help you regain hope, and see wonderful things that are happening in your life.