Sometimes what drags us down is how we approach things that we do. The mood we put ourselves in, can sometimes set us up for having a bad time and not enjoying life to the fullest.
I remember a couple of years ago I was visiting Olvera Street in Los Angeles with a couple of friends. One of my friends, Claire, absolutely loves visiting that location and was looking forward to it. I was kind of in a neutral mood about the whole situation. I had been having a rough past week and was letting it affect my mood. My negative mood was fairly obvious to both of my friends who were present. After visiting a store that sold eclectic items, my mood was clearly lackluster. The other friend present, Simon, finally commented and said “you are only having a bad time because you want to have a bad time. If you try to have a good time, you’ll start to have more fun. Either way, it’s your choice but I want you to have a good time. Claire wants you to have a good time. So just have fun with us.”
As much as I didn’t like to hear it at that moment, I knew he was right. I was starting my day in a slightly negative mood. I wasn’t even trying to be enthusiastic in the slightest. We had planned a fun afternoon and evening together, but I was not putting myself in the mood to have fun. After he said that, I tried to smile more. We had a late lunch, and I tried to be enthusiastic and really enjoy the food. The rest of the day, I was mentioning how excited I was for the sports game we planned to see that evening. I shared some amusing jokes with my friends and just had fun. I felt much better too. I was having far more fun than before. I was enjoying myself and just having a good time. By the end of the night, my mood had drastically improved and I was in a more positive state of mind. Thanks to the words of my friends and some effort on my end, I changed what could have been a day full of negativity and pessimism into one that was memorable and really enjoyable.
Sometimes the only person preventing you from being happy and enjoying your day really is you. If you find yourself sometimes having bad days and you simply don’t know why, then it’s possible you are approaching something with indifference. It’s also possible you are cultivating an environment of enthusiasm.
Some things you might want to consider…
- Try to smile, laugh, and show enthusiasm. Showing excitement can often impact how we feel on the inside.
- What do you get excited about? Sometimes we are doing things that just don’t make us enthusiastic. Try and find things that make you excited or give you something to look forward to. If you dislike your job, then find things to be excited about after work. If you are uninterested in most of the activities you do on the weekend, then encourage your friends to do more things you enjoy.
- If you are not sure what makes you excited, then this is the perfect time to start trying new things. Find things you are interested in and get out there and do it. Not only will you make new friends but you will learn something new. Join clubs, view online forums or blogs for ideas, try a new hobby or ask your friends and family for advice about what they think you may really like.
- Surround yourself with people who have positive attitudes. Being around others who are negative or unenthusiastic will not help your enthusiasm. Try to spend more time with people who are enthusiastic and positive.